Dear Struggling Mom

Every once in awhile I receive an email from a struggling new mama who feels hopeless, and alone, and they ask for my advice. The thing is… I don’t have advice. For the most part, all I can offer is support, encouragement, and some tips that I learned from trial and error. Because the truth is…I am there with you! I struggled to!

The biggest mistake that we make as mothers is not supporting each other by being honest about our experiences.

We do each other an injustice when we pretend that we are perfect.

We fear talking about our struggles, because we don’t want to be judged. But, the truth is, we ALL feel that way at some point, and we SHOULD talk about it.

So, I’m going to talk about it….

I struggled, and I still struggle sometimes.

If you struggle, here is my letter to you…

Dear Struggling Mom,

I want you to know that I FEEL you!

Many of the struggle stories that I hear are part of my own story as a mother.

Just because I have a blog, post high quality photographs of Kaia being cute, and talk about how sweet life is on Instagram, doesn’t mean that I am perfect. Sure, our little family is happy a lot of the time, but that doe not mean that we are always happy. The truth about life is that it is bittersweet; and that means sometimes it has to be bitter. (And, nothing is “wrong” with bitter, it’s just part of being alive!)

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Breastfeeding: When to wean?

 

I know that in our culture breastfeeding is usually considered taboo, or maybe a little weird, or sometimes it’s OK but only until a certain age. To me, breastfeeding is completely natural, and beautiful. It’s a beautiful connection between child and mother. There is nothing shameful about it. It should be celebrated, instead of hidden. It should be honored instead of put-down. This kind of negativity around breastfeeding will affect the breastfeeding mother. Any negativity around breastfeeding could steer a mother away from breastfeeding in the first few weeks. Why? Because breastfeeding, while natural and beautiful, is very difficult, painful, and can feel isolating.

I know, because I’ve experienced all of these things.

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